“You can only love as much as you receive.” Was this woman for real? She stood on the stage in front of me making daring statements that needed to be reflected upon, her name Brene Brown.
Skip forward a few months after I had heard her speak. I had forgotten about this radical idea of love until today. The temperature has dropped and my belongings are packed in a 20 foot container heading to the land down under. I had packed one bag which was to last me 2 months, the problem is, its freezing here in Canada and boiling hot in Australia. So I divided the space and packed for both climates which limited warm clothing.
“Do you think I could ask Catherine if I could borrow some sweaters?” I asked the Pastor I call Husband. His reply was totally unpredictable and caught me off guard. “You are finally learning how to ask for help and learning to receive.” He said it with a look in his eye. Anyone who knows me well understands that this is a short coming in my character and if I finally ask for something, its been deliberated on, debated within for days and then decided upon.
Asking for help can appear to be weak. Its vulnerable and can be associated with shame.
Yet vulnerability is the core of every emotion. When we express ourselves we are displaying our feelings, they are being highlighted for others to see. We are in a state of putting ourselves “out there” to others who can choose to make judgement.
But when we understand who we are, the intricate parts of our make up, then mistaken judgement can be offloaded and rejected. It can fall to the ground like dust rather than shaping our thoughts of who we are.
Our character can navigate the untrue remarks leaving behind what was said and straining forward with God-given truth. It will set you free from being a slave to opinion.
And when we abandon opinions, the real work for God can be done. There is no longer a yearning or a seeking of other people’s approval.
If we spend our efforts pining to be applauded or desiring consent from others, than our motives are impure. We are squelching the Holy Spirit as our focus is on ourselves rather than hearing from Him. We are searching for a platform, a stage to display our good deeds instead of pursuing the conviction carved out uniquely for us to fulfill.
We miss out on our Heavenly reward as it’s already be given by man…I tell you what, having God reward me on the day I enter Heaven far outweighs an injection of praise given here on earth. His reward lasts for all eternity, earthly recognition is fleeting and over with in a matter of seconds.
“Be sure you do not do good things in front of others just to be seen by them. If you do, you have no reward from your Father in heaven. When you give to the poor, do not be as those who pretend to be someone they are not. They blow a horn in the places of worship and in the streets so people may respect them. For sure, I tell you, they have all the reward they are going to get. When you give, do not let your left hand know what your right hand gives. Your giving should be in secret. Then your Father Who sees in secret will reward you. Matthew 6:1-4
We all have a daily job to do for the Kingdom, don’t ever give up on the calling God has placed on your life. Keep Him at the forefront of your decisions and actions.
He speaks individually and seeks people willing to live for Him wholeheartedly. A willing heart will follow His promptings and lead.
As Christine Caine wrote; “Don’t ever allow your God-given vision and mandate to be hijacked by another’s agenda. Love everyone but do what God has called you to do.”
Be you, stay the course and give your best.
FOR THE DARING
1.Does God need to gently shape your need for approval of others? If so, what began your drive in seeking other people’s approval?
2. What words do you associate “Vulnerability” with? If negative connotations are attached how can you retrain your thinking?
3. Are you carrying wounds from others who have misjudged you?