She appeared on my door step, eyes puffy and cheeks stained from crying. I embrace her and put the kettle on. I make cups of tea without many words and we sit. I can see her fists are clenched as she stares at the ground. Her posture and pose suggests to me that she is shame filled and stricken with grief.
I am completely unaware of the situation which has taken place to bring her to this point. I find truthful words to disarm her hurting heart. “You know that there is nothing you can do to separate you from God’s unending love. There’s nothing you have done that you can’t be forgiven for.”
This times she weeps and then moments later breaks into sobs that grip her body. Eventually she says without looking at me “I have had an affair.” I allow a moment, a pause to create space for her to speak, she continues and unpacks her story…
I sit beside her listening without a judgmental bone in my body. Who can cast the first stone at any sin?
I sit and reflect, not on her story but the word sin.
A foreign word to those who don’t go to church, or maybe a word heard too often for those exploring Christianity from those feeling more ‘self righteous’ resulting in pushing an individual away from God’s love rather than drawing them into His grace and fresh forgiveness. The harsh critics have driven people away from the exact thing they need most-a new beginning, the next chapter for their life, a way forward, an eternal love…
Sin is ugly and it does separate us from our Holy God who is pure, but we must point each other in truth and gentleness to the cross. That’s where healing takes place, pardons are rectified and life is offered.
How do we all come to a place where we need to bow our knee to seek forgiveness?
By taking small steps away from innocence.
Tasting evil and then feeding it.
Allowing the world to grip our heart’s desires and giving into the pull.
Lusting after that which we don’t have and making every effort to grab it.
Self gratification takes over and consequences forgotten. The moment feels good, even euphoric but the injection wears off and the high always results in a low. The poison creates an internal sickness that must be nursed back to health…to Him
“The Holy Spirit gives us desires that are opposite from what the sinful nature desires. Those two forces are constantly fighting each other, and our choices are never free from this conflict.” Galatians 5:17
Don’t you know that you bear the fruit in your life that you feed- both good and bad.
There are two spirits wanting you, fighting for you.
The worldly spirit will manifest itself in sexual immorality, impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, idolatry, participation with demonic activities, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outburts of anger, selfish ambition, envy and even drunkenness.
While the Holy Spirit fills the soul so we don’t chase emptiness but rather live with the pleasure of accessing His qualities which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.
I invite you to self inspect your character and challenge yourself by asking…
What is my vine producing?
Do you need to be the change that you want to see?